Bridget C. Williams
Our emotions, especially deeply stored ones that haven’t been dealt with, can manifest in physical symptoms. When you don’t release emotions regularly, they can get stuck and eventually cause illness.
Make the decision to let it go.
Things don’t disappear on their own. You need to make the commitment to “let it go.” If you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging YOUR Future. Hanging on just blocks the blessings that god has for you.
Making the decision to let it go also means accepting that you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person (after you finish step 2 below).
Express your pain and your responsibility.
Express the pain the hurt made you feel, whether it’s directly to the other person, or through getting it out of your system (like venting to a friend, or writing in a journal, or writing a letter you never send to the other person). Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.
When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back to the present moment. Some people find it easier to do this with a conscious cue, such as saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing _______________.”
Healing requires a combination of emotional, physical, and spiritual work. True transformation involves not just saying “I’m angry” or “I’m sad,” but getting at the core of those emotions and then changing the thoughts and behavior patterns that keep you connected to these emotions.
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