Bridget C. Williams
We live in a world where people are afraid to confront themselves, their hurts, their wounds. The things of the past are considered as dark, ugly, and painful. Unlock your past hurts and try resolving the negative feelings. Whether there is the feeling of betrayal; cheating; denial; disconnection from your family and others.
Is the past is really about the past? Or is it about the present. If anger or hurt about the past is happening now find a way to release it. Your present moment experience in the now is what keeps the past alive. Become aware of what is affecting you and don’t wait for the permission of others. Do you want peace in your life so that the effects of past are removed.
You may be stuck because of the fear of judgement which wears many mask, shame, shyness, and etiquette. You get a jump-start on releasing the past when you take full responsibility.
- Make yourself forget about the past (impossible)
- Stuff or ignore your feelings (creates other problems – addiction, anyone?)
- Wait for an apology or acknowledgment (postpones happiness)
- Wait for time to heal all wounds (you may need more than time)
- Wallow endlessly in your emotions (oh, so painful)
- Redo the past (you can’t change what happened but you absolutely can change your reaction to what happened)
You don’t want your past to mess up your present or future. What I found is holding onto past hurts, it is draining, stressful, and you are the only one sitting in your wounds and feelings. While the days of others go on you end up resentful and bitter and want some form of pay back. In the end this just adds to the problem or creates bigger problems. So take the high road and work through the past problems.
If you have to dialogue with the person who hurt you pray before you do it. This calms your spirit before you speak. Let them know how this made you feel and that you just want the situation resolve so that you can have closer. However, if this is not possible than you have to work on forgiving the person so that you have inner peace. If you have allowed or are allowing this person or people to disrespect you, than they have your power. If you don’t deal with it you will have an eruption or meltdown at some point.
By not releasing the hurt of the past and present means that you are giving your power to the person or the event. Take back your inner peace and be glad about it. If you want to be free of the past, lose interest in these sticky thoughts. Begin to confront emotional wounds and resolve negative feelings. Whether it’s relationships from childhood or pressures from recent years. Certain events can have a significant impact on current behavior and thinking.
“I am sustaining my Life from past hurts, and I am over it.” Author, Bridget C. Williams