Challenging and changing a value or belief can be easier at times. Challenging feelings can be extremely difficult, especially when adapting to change or a life transition, in comparison to changing thoughts.

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Adjusting to change can be difficult, as even positive life transitions tend to cause some stress. Over the course of a lifetime, a person can expect to experience a significant amount of change. Some of these changes, such as relationships, births, new jobs, starting over are generally positive, although they may be accompanied by their own unique stressors. Other major life transitions, such as moving, retirement, or entering the “empty nest” phase of life may cause a significant amount of stress.

Those who find themselves experiencing difficulty coping with life transitions may find it helpful to speak to a counsellor, therapist, or psychiatrist in order to become better able to adjust to changes they cannot control. Yes, I said therapist and the others; it’s nothing to be a shame of. Continue your close relationships with God.  Get the pray worriers on your side and ask for god’s guidance.   We have to believe that we can overcome circumstances and be strong. It takes time but is well worth it in your favour.


How Can Change Be Beneficial?

Certain changes, such as entering school, starting a new job, starting a family, can often be exciting, even when they cause some amount of stress, because they are generally considered to be positive changes. Many people look forward to obtaining new initiatives, rising in their chosen field, or having a home and family.


Coping with Change

 A person facing a big change might, for example,experience depression, anxiety, or fatigue; have headaches; develop trouble sleeping or eating well; or may use other substances to help.

Upcoming change. Often, stress can develop out of fear of what is unknown. When one is well-informed about a change, it may be easier to face.

  • Attending to one’s physical and mental health. Being healthy in mind and body may make it easier to cope with changes in life. Sleeping well, exercising, and eating nutritional foods regularly may all be beneficial in improving both physical and mental health.

  • Taking time to RELAX. Remaining calm in spite of stress may be easier when one’s life is well-adjusted and includes time for leisure as well as work.

  • Limiting change.It may be helpful to avoid making a large change immediately after another change. Generally, adjusting to a change takes some time, and making multiple changes at once, even smaller ones, may not allow enough time for an adjustment period, which can cause stress.

  • Discussing any difficulties adapting with another person.Family members may be able to help one adjust to change, but professional help may also benefit those experiencing difficulty or stress as a result of life changes.

  • Transitions and Letting Go

    If someone is forced to change, even if unsatisfied in life, they are entering into the world of the unknown that may be even more anxiety provoking than the unsatisfied life. However, the choice of change is always available, and, those who do not have the ability to trust themselves may miss out on the opportunity to increase their quality of life.

    • Many people are afraid of change. They prefer routine and stability, and, with any kind of transition this change disrupts self-confidence. Fear inhibits people from taking risks. When fear relates to a positive change, it usually is linked to a fear of not being able to achieve success. Some are overly concerned about not being capable “enough” or of being judged, which can affect your dignity.

    • Fear. If people want to be able to cope well, they need to be open to the challenge of changing and questioning their thoughts feelings and beliefs that they have in life. One way to confront fear is to pretend that the worse scenario happened and then backtrack in the mind to solve the problem. This is a new way to problem solving.

    • Maturity and Transitioning Life is associated with maturity or growing older, and this change usually brings with it an isolated sensation linked to a sense of loss to what was once in the past. With each passage people must learn new ways of adapting, and, facing this new way of being in the world can be anxiety provoking because it tests our competence. By coping with life, people will need to be open and at peace with questioning thoughts, feelings and beliefs about the world in which they live.